Work and Life
How to Live Life with Few (if any) Regrets
Written by: Akua Hinds
February 21, 2019
Many of us have regrets about choices that we made or choices that we did not make. Having regrets can be difficult to handle emotionally because once time has passed, that moment that you wish that you could live over again will never return to you. Believe it or not, regrets can be used as motivating factors to help you to move forward with your life in the right way. Some of the regrets that I have had have motivated me to make better decisions, and I know that the same your regrets can motivate you as well if you allow that to happen. When you turn your mistakes into lessons that you learn from, you will have very little to regret. Here is how you can live your life with few if any regrets.
Make a List of What you Wish You Had Done Differently
It might be the last thing that you want to do, but sitting down and reflecting on the errors that you made throughout your life is the first step towards living life in a better way. When you make your list, make note of all of the people who you unfairly dismissed, the people who you did not treat fairly, and the opportunities that you squandered. Leave some room on the piece of paper that you are writing on so that you can add any more regrets that come to mind. Believe me, you will have more regrets to add even when you think that you are done.
Make an Effort to Reach Out to Others
With a global population of over 8 billion people, it is amazing how many people feel lonely and misunderstood. The truth is that there is someone somewhere on the planet who has struggled with many of the same issues that you are struggling with. When you are unable to make amends to someone who you blew off in the past, the best alternative to paying someone back for the goodness that they showed you is to pay that same goodness forward to someone else. Make efforts to reach out to people who are lonely and struggling.
Take That Trip
Many people have bucket lists of things that they want to accomplish during their lifetime before they “kick the bucket.” If your bucket list has items on there about taking a dream vacation, then you need to make plans and turn your dream into a reality. Yes! Take that trip! Use your time off from work to take a vacation. Visit your family members and friends who live abroad. Go attend that special reunion trip. Make memories. When you actively create positive memories, you will have no regrets about doing so.
Follow the Promptings on your Mind and Heart
When you suddenly have a thought about someone who you have not seen or spoken to in a while, you are thinking about that person for a reason. Listen to your heart and mind. Follow the prompting that you have been given, and reach out to the person who you are thinking about. I find that when I have a sudden thought about someone, it is because that person and I need to connect. I cannot count how many times I have heard people say that they wish they had reached out to certain people in their lives more often. The sad thing is that those realizations often did not come about until after that person they were referring to had passed away.
Living life with few regrets should be the ultimate goal! On your very last day on this earth, you will be happy knowing that you did the right things. Deep in your heart, you know what you need to do. The issues that are on your mind and weighing on your conscience are issues that you need to address right away. Talk to who you need to talk to. Finish that task. Read that book. Write that book. Work when you can because during times when you cannot work, the rewards from the work that you did in the past will help you in your future. Take that trip. Listen to your heart and follow it. When you do, at the end of the day and at the beginning of the next day, you will be glad that you did. Use your mistakes and regrets to fuel your future and help you to make better decisions.
Akua Hinds works as a journalist, actress, music performer & instructor, marketing director and owner of 3 dating sites www.InterracialDesires.net, www.RichSinglesDate.net, www.ChristianPartner.co, and Pure Romance by Akua Hinds at www.PureRomance.ca/AkuaHinds & www.PureRomance.com/AkuaHinds selling passion products. Please visit www.AkuaHinds.com for more information.